“The beauty of a woman is not in a facial mode, but the true beauty in a woman is reflected in her soul. It is the caring that she lovingly gives; the passion that she shows. The beauty of a woman grows with the passing years.”
~ Audrey Hepburn
In this article, we focus on some of the common traits of quality women. We hope that the content is entertaining and insightful; perhaps even useful.
Source: 11 Traits of A Quality Woman
Here are 11 common traits quality women share:
To which I have added a twelfth, at the end! I have also included comments [inset, like this one] where I felt them to be warranted. This is referring, of course, to women who are worthy of not only dating and forming close relationships with, but also – hopefully and ideally – the lifelong bond of matrimony. So what are these traits? They may not be limited to, but certainly include, the following:
1. She takes care of herself
A woman who takes pride in herself garners immediate attention and respect. She’s responsible and accountable for what she does and doesn’t do and refrains from undeservedly blaming anyone for anything. This kind of woman is reliable, hard-working, and confident.
This might be a good time to read Proverbs 31:10-31, if you have not already done so. This Biblical assessment of a quality woman cannot be surpassed, in my opinion!
2. She’s comfortable in her own skin
That sort of woman knows her own self-worth and has the confidence to back it up. Though she may be insecure at times (she’s only human), she’s able to look into the mirror with pride. This woman is also intelligent enough to realize that her opinion about her appearance is the one that matters.
As a sub-set of this, I would add that she keeps any body-art tasteful — and minimal. Her opinion about her appearance may be the only one that matters, true; but that doesn’t mean she is careless or inconsiderate of the impression she gives to others, either.
A woman of quality respects the beauty God gave her, and does not feel the need to either cover it up or (as lesser women may erroneously believe) “enhance” it with excessive ink or piercings. If the first thing people notice when they look at her is not her natural beauty but what she has done (or had done) to herself, she has left the path of wisdom, in my opinion.
[A fact which I think makes it a bit ironic that the “cover photo” attached to the original article is of a woman with a large and prominent tattoo! I have taken the liberty of replacing it with a picture that I think represents the desired ideal a bit better, for this blog post.]
3. She has a strong sense of independence
In other words, she doesn’t need you – and this is a positive thing. An independent woman isn’t reliant on anybody for her personal needs. She hasn’t fallen for you just so that you could provide for her financial, mental or physical necessities. The woman has entered the relationship as an equal partner – and is willing to shoulder the burden at any time if need be.
I should note that I am not entirely convinced of the idea that “she doesn’t need you” is necessarily a positive thing. Being “needy” or codependent is problematic, of course! But if she doesn’t need me to feel complete, on at least some level – and if I don’t need her in the same way – I can’t help feeling that the relationship is one of mere convenience, that could easily be abandoned if things get a little rough, as they inevitably will at some point.
Perhaps it’s because I have been abandoned in this way, in the past, that I am a bit sensitive on this point, but be that as it may…!
Otherwise, I agree with the points made here.
4. She isn’t self-absorbed or self-centered
Of course, a quality woman is not self-absorbed or self-centered. Quite the opposite, actually – she often gives more than she takes and puts others before herself. In a relationship, this woman’s selflessness is evident. She wants love, honesty, and respect for you.
5. She’s not interested in drama
Theatrics do not interest a quality woman – something that reinforces her high level of maturity. This woman will not play childish games, escalate a conflict, or seek to make you jealous. It’s not an understatement that she probably despises unnecessary drama as much (if not more than) you do.
6. She inspires you to be the best version of yourself
A quality woman knows what you’re capable of becoming, and will encourage this without making a fuss about it. She desires you to reach your full potential because she both loves and respects you and your abilities.
7. She is level-headed about conflict
As a refined, mature, and intelligent woman, she understands the inevitability of occasional conflict. Something that separates a quality woman from the rest is that she remains logical and poised about the situation. She encourages and anticipates an amicable solution to whatever conflict may surface.
8. She’s opinionated and open-minded
She is not afraid to make her opinions known and stick to her guns. She also possesses the knowledge to articulate her beliefs. Perhaps most important, she is tolerant of others and actively listens to what they have to say. In the context of a relationship, her opinionated yet open-minded outlook means she doesn’t require validation; nor does she expect you to appease her.
I’m not sure I would have used the word “opinionated,” which has acquired some rather negative connotations over the years! Nonetheless, I get what they’re saying, here: intelligent enough to formulate thoughtful, considered opinions, and to defend them if called to do so, yet open to the possibility of new information, and the need for revision, if necessary and appropriate. That works for me!
9. She’s real when it comes to intimacy
Quite simply, a high character woman isn’t bashful about intimacy. You’ll know when she’s ready for the next step, and she isn’t shy about stating what she is and isn’t comfortable with. A quality woman approaches intimacy as she does with many other things: with collectedness and maturity.
And while it should go without saying, a woman of quality views physical intimacy as an expression of love and commitment, not a substitute for them.
10. She always seems to leave a positive impression
As mentioned, a quality woman possesses great character. She’s confident, smart, open, honest, and loyal. For these reasons and others, she never ceases to leave a good impression on people. Odds are most – if not all – of your family and friends admire and respect her.
11. You feel extremely fortunate to have her!
But of course! Why wouldn’t you feel lucky to have a woman with such qualities? You should also feel a bit of pride because a woman of this status wouldn’t date someone who didn’t “measure up.” If she’s willing to share the rest of her life with you, count your blessings.
To which I, as a Christian and a Christian clergyman, would only add:
12. She is serious about her spirituality.
A woman of quality has a strong religious faith which she takes seriously, without being pushy or judgmental about it. She is active in the church, without making you feel as if you’re “playing second fiddle” to her church work. While respecting the beliefs of others, she never compromises her own. And, she shares with you the desire to bring up any children you might eventually have together to share that faith, as well.
May God grant that I find such a woman.